How To Start A Good Conversation

Imagine the scene... You have been looking forward to this great get together for a long time and are keen to impress everyone there. You arrive on time and then...to your horror you become tongue-tied!

Not being able to speak or start a conversation is the worst thing that could happen to you. The greatest joy of going to a dinner party is not the prospect of a good dinner, but the anticipation of a good converstaion.

What To Talk About

Next time you are going to a much-anticipated party, just be yourself. Put a warm smile on your face, walk up to a group that looks interesting and listen to what they are saying. Put in your contribution when there is a pause in the conversation and soon you will find yourself submerged in the discussion.

I always start my conversation with a compliment! Trust me, it always works. People feel appreciated and develop a warmth for you. They immediately consider you as a friend and a conversation begins. You can always strike up a conversation with your new neighbor or colleague by making small talk on something that they would be interested in. Don`t worry about your viewpoints. There will be ample opportunity to express them!

Hobbies, sports and games are well nigh indispensable as backgrounds for general conversation. Talking about your recent visit to the exotic Bahamas, your recent golf game or your hobby of playing the piano can be a very good conversation starter.

Current events are also good ways to start most conversations. One must therefore keep abreast of them by reading a newspaper for local news and a newsmagazine or the equivalent for national and international events.

How To Talk

Don`t talk fast. You may be nervous but to keep it from showing. Have control and consciously try not to be too nervous.

The same rules apply if you speak so slowly that people have to lean towards you, waiting for you to finish what you are saying. It is very uncomfortable for the listener and is never a good way to contribute to a conversation.

Be humorous. A smile, a light-hearted manner and a friendly tone is loved by the entire human race. Be interesting. Don`t bore others. Talk about what the others may be interested in. Don`t make it a monologue. People avoid those who only speak and don`t listen.

Don`t interrupt others. It is all very well that you want to be a part of the group, but interrupting others is an insult to them. Suppose the speaker is saying that he has trouble keeping the leaves off the lawn when you pipe up with an observation, such as, "Say, have you noticed how car prices are coming down?" A person who often does that sort of thing is not ready for polite company. If you have ever done this, I trust it was the last time. It is unpardonable.

Do avoid expletives in your conversation. Imagine what it would be like if your friend keeps saying, `I go to the `hell` gym `hell` every two `hell` days `hell``! After listening to `hell` ten times in a sentence, you will beg him to go to hell.

If you follow the above-mentioned tips in your next get together, you are sure to be thought of as a great conversationalist. People will call you outgoing and friendly. Many life long friendships have begun on this note and, who knows, it may happen to you too. Do remember to drop me a note when it happens!

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