Excuses - The One Thing Stopping You

Have you ever met someone who is full of excuses from the very first moment you meet them? They are a complete “VICTIM” simply because they do not take responsibility for their thoughts, their choices, their words, their actions, their reactions, and their behavior. Dani Johnson, trainer in the home business industry, says that: “An “EXCUSE”is nothing but, a WELL-PLANNED LIE”!

Maybe they’re constantly feeling sorry for things that they could have done better or differently. Many people feel they need to explain everything they do to avoid getting blamed or judged by others. Explaining or justifying can also be a way of trying to eliminate feelings of guilt that may arise from doing something you may not approve of. Perhaps you even have a small part of yourself that tends to make up new excuses for why you're late, or why you didn't do what you said you would do, or why you aren't feeling great about yourself and your life.

There are two kinds of people in this world: Those who choose to live their life as an exclamation and those who are trapped in living their life as an explanation.

1. VICTORS: The first group of people chose to see their life as a celebration. They consciously focus on what they can be grateful for and celebrate even the small things that life brings them. These people are always ready to empower others. They see life as a grand adventure and a spiritual exploration and take responsibility for everything that happens within themselves and in all of their relationships.

2. VICTIMS: The second type of person tends to hide and doesn’t see the truth of who they are. They are blind to their inner beauty and divinity because they believe that something is fundamentally wrong with them. They use excuses as a crutch and a way of hiding what is "wrong" with them. They explain away anything that does not appear to be okay with regards their behavior. They blame circumstances and other people for things that have occurred. Unfortunately, this tendency to blame and explain keeps the person from not claiming their own power in the world. When you are constantly wrapped up in thinking, "What will other people think of me", it’s difficult to see your true beauty and how things are perfect just the way they are.

If you find yourself swinging back and forth between these two extremes or simply stuck working in the “excuse factory”, it's time to take a good long look inwards. Think about who you will be in 20 years from now if you continue to exercise the excuse habit. What will it feel like to live this kind of future?

Imagine now what it would be like to give up your excuses completely today. What would it feel like to simply say “NO” to giving anyone an excuse for anything, and to simply tell your truth as it IS-- raw and real. The next time that you are late, try expressing the truth instead of making up an excuse. It is so important to TAKE RESPONSIBILITYfor yourself, your actions, and your behavior. You might say something like, "I really didn't leave my home early enough to be here on time" or "I just decided I would rather watch the rest of my T.V. show." I challenge and invite you to see how radically honest you can become!

A part of you may be afraid that people will dislike or fear you IF you speak your truth instead of making excuses. The reality is that most people know when you are making an excuse and would like to know how you really feel about something or what is truly happening with you. Speaking your truth and living from this place of celebration will deepen all of your relationships because they will be based on a foundation of trust and authenticity. Giving up excuses is like letting go of a VERY heavy weight. Being radically honest is one of the most liberating things you will ever experience, and will bring your total freedom.

It's about you stepping into your power, taking your life back by being totally responsible for everything, and reeling in the greatest catch you will ever find....YOU!! When you give up living your life as an explanation, you begin to experience deeper authentic relationships with people that are founded on who you are and not the image you are trying to project.
Just try it…for even one week, one day, one hour or even one conversation with someone. Stop living your life as an explanation and start experiencing it as a joyous, truthful exclamation, and joy! Affirmation: I am totally 100% responsible for EVERYTHING in my life and I create my reality!

Some Excuses and Justifiers

1. After, I.................
2. Been there, done that.......
3. Can't afford it...
4. Computer is down........
5. Didn't work before......
6. Don't feel like it...
7. Don't have to....
8. Don’t have any….
9. Don't know enough........
10. Everything is a struggle for me........
11. Family comes first.
12. Got a headache.
13. Have a zit on face.......
14. Have no energy.....
15. Have no money........
16. Have no time.......
17. Have nothing to wear......
18. Having a bad hair day.......
19. House is a mess........
20. I always fail........
21. I can't...........
22. I deserve a break.............
23. I don't know how............
24. I don't want to fail........
25. I don't want to look stupid.....
26. I forgot...........
27. I shouldn't........
28. I won't..........
29. I'm in pain..........
30. It won't work.......
31. It's boring.........
32. It's just the way I am......
33. It's no use........
34. It's not my job........
35. Job comes first..........
36. Later........
37. Lost my........
38. My friends don't do it..........
39. My parents........
40. My partner thinks.........
41. Nee more self-time.........
42. Need to relax......
43. Never thought of it..........
44. Not in the cards........
45. Not in the right mood.......
46. Not my time...........
47. Not my responsibility.......
48. Not smart enough........
49. Others come first.......
50. Soon.......
51. The kids won't let me.......
52. Tomorrow is another day....
53. Too broke......
54. Too busy.........
55. Too cold, too hot...........
56. Too dumb, smart.....
57. Too easy, hard......
58. Too far........
59. Too much effort.......
60. Too old, young.....
61. Too short, tall......
62. Too shy........
63. Too sick........
64. Too sore.......
65. Too thin, fat.....
66. Too tired........What others will think......
67. When I.........
68. Why should I...........

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