Does Self Sabotage Keep You From Changing the Course of Your Life?

Using some form of self-sabotage is a behavior we use either consciously or unconsciously many times in our lives? We have to ask ourselves why we do this; although most of the time people are not really aware of the reason they are sabotaging themselves unless they get very honest with themselves. Although it is preventing them from being successful with what they say they want such as being in a home business---they still continue this destructive behavior. For some unconscious reason they are afraid of succeeding. Therefore, it is important that we look at some of the reasons self-sabotage happens and then look at some of the solutions to stop it immediately.

First of all, let’s talk about your past. Are you a captive of your past? Or, have you released the past and liberated yourself from its hold on you? When you refuse to allow your history to imprison you, you choose a path of self-determination. Letting go of the past is your personal "declaration of independence" from anything in your earlier years that could limit your creative potential or prevent you from living your best life right now.

How can you tell if past events are still having a negative effect on you today and three signs to look for:

1. When certain situations trigger extreme, out-of-control emotional reactions. It feels as if you go on "auto-pilot" and have little or no control over the way you feel or behave once certain internal buttons have been pushed. For example, Marta trembles with fear at the thought of asserting herself with her boss, who overburdens Marta with an excessive workload. Joe goes into a rage when he believes he is being accused of making an error, however insignificant. Ben is consumed with jealousy when he catches his girlfriend smiling at a stranger.

2. All of the logical solutions and practical approaches to changing your out-of-control reactions have failed. Your head may say, "This is ridiculous"! However, you just can't stop yourself from over-reacting with anger, sadness, fear, shame, guilt, or jealousy to a situation that just doesn't merit that kind of emotional energy. This where the character trait of “SELF-CONTROL” should be used!

3. You keep making the same unhealthy choices over and over again. Although you may vow that you are going to set a new course, your default mode is set on self-destruct. This is preventing you from
“changing the course of your life”. You can't seem to keep yourself from repeating the same mistakes-even though you know better. Elizabeth continues to have relationships with married men, despite of years of heartache from other married lovers. Mark lies to his manager and coworkers, although that behavior led to Mark's dismissal from his last two jobs. What can you do if you are under the negative spell of your past?

Here are some steps you can take which will neutralize the effect that the past has on you:
1. Reclaim your power by refusing to think of yourself as a “victim”. This does not mean you deny the bad things that have happened to you. Rather, it means you embrace your wholeness rather than your brokenness. Everything you have lived has strengthened your psychological immune system. Recognize your capacity to thrive in spite of the hardships that have come your way, and watch your life begin to mirror your more empowered sense of Self.

2. Retire your need to blame anyone-including yourself for your present unhappiness. Blaming ‘someone or a situation’ only weighs you down with unnecessary baggage that inhibits you from moving forward. Release blaming anyone for your negative reactions and take personal responsibility for “your issue”, and make a commitment o heal yourself.

3. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Everybody makes them; therefore, that's how we learn. Stop berating yourself with your so-called failures and use that extra energy to create the life you desire today.

4. Make peace with your past. If certain unpleasant memories still hold a high degree of emotional charge, let a qualified therapist assist you in healing those wounds to loosen the psychological hold those traumatic episodes have on you.

5. Change the thoughts you entertain about yourself. Monitor your mental mindset to avoid habitual, self-limiting ways of thinking. When you catch yourself engaging in old thought patterns like, "I don't deserve to be happy" or "I'm not good enough," deliberately choose new thoughts that feel better to you.

6. Stop using your past as a point of comparison to your present and future. No matter what you have lived before,
“TODAY” can be different. Instead of focusing on how your life has been, place your attention on how you want your life to be. Keep your eye on the road ahead rather than the one behind you, and watch your life take you to the places you have dreamed of going! As you let go of your past, you free yourself to live the life you truly desire with the commitment to “changing the course of your life”. Step into the present, and discover the unlimited potential for joy that awaits you there. Sabotaging yourself is not a “success strategy” for your home-business. You deserve to have it all!

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