Question: I spoke to someone recently who told me to put my wishes to have a child into the universe and then "let it go". How does one do this? And, is it not natural to focus on something you want so badly? -Tammy

Answer: When a wise friend says, "Just put it out and let it go" what they are really saying is put into practice the law of attraction and the law of detachment simultaneously.

The law of detachment is essential to intentional creation and it's primarily about instilling your emotional self with absolute certainty and faith.

The law of detachment is taught throughout the bible for example:

"Then the disciples came to Jesus privately and said, 'Why could we not cast it out?' He said to them, 'Because of your little faith. For truly I tell you, if you have faith the size of a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you." -Matthew 17:19-20

Now, a mustard seed may be small but it is absolutely, positively still a mustard seed. When planted it is not going to produce a cherry tree! Thus, faith as small as a mustard seed contains enough faith to warrant the experience of absolute certainty that when you put it out there, that all is well and Divinely Ordered and in Divine Timing all your desires shall be fulfilled, for the highest and best for all parties involved.

Period!

When you ask, "Isn't it natural to focus on something you want so badly?" the real question isn't so much whether or not it's natural to focus on what we want (because it is), the real question I believe you want to know is, "Why would it be bad to focus on what I want?" The answer is that it's not 'bad' to focus on what we want. However, when we want it "so badly" there's an undertone of fear and doubt preventing faith and certainty. The doubt is actually creating the 'so badly' experience of the 'what if it doesn't happen for me?' which of course creates 'it not happening.'

I enjoy finding support for the law of attraction in the bible, so I have another favorite quote that I remember when I find myself doubting:

"But ask in faith, nothing doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind; for the doubter, being double-minded and unstable in every way, must not expect to receive anything from the Lord." James 1:6-8

Substitute the word Universe for Lord and you have the New Thought message that "when you doubt, you get more to doubt about".

In this example, what you want is to get pregnant, have a wonderful, healthy pregnancy, a comfortable and even magical delivery and a happy, healthy baby.

From time to time, this desire is accompanied by many extenuating circumstances such as the fear and doubts of one or more of the parents. For example, many will have thoughts such as:

What if I'm too old?
What if I'm a terrible parent?
What if something is wrong with the baby?
What if I can't love this baby?
What if I can't support a child or my 'other-half' and I don't stay together?
What if there's something wrong with me (or us) and we weren't meant to create a family together?
What if there's something physically wrong with me and I'm defective in some way?
What if it's too late?
What if I won't know what to do once I have the child, or what if -- there's so many what if's.

All of these fears launch creative thoughts into the Universe and are reflected back to us in our experiences. Thus, it can be terribly challenging to hand it over when underneath you feel so afraid (and other negative emotions).

There's a documented phenomena in medical science known as psychogenic infertility. I often use this example in my seminars because it is documented scientific evidence of the Universal Laws working together.

You've heard the stories of couples who want to get pregnant, and they start out trying (you know, the birds-and-the-bees) and nothing happens, nothing happens, nothing happens and six months, a year go by, and they decide to see a fertility specialist.

The fertility doctor orders the tests, they begin In Vitro Fertilization processes and every other current medical solution and still nothing; they just can't get pregnant. After tens of thousands of dollars and even more tears, the doctor says, "There's nothing more we can do. Have you ever considered adoption?" and, hands them a parting brochure.

The couple goes home, grieve and eventually decide to adopt. "Maybe adopting is what we were supposed to do? Maybe this is what is meant to be for us? Look at how many children in this world don't have families and how we are going to be helping one of them. Oh my! I'm so excited about this!"

They take their focus off of having a baby 'this way' and put their focus upon, having a baby 'another way'.

They anxiously wait their turn, adopt a beautiful child, and bring the baby home. And, boom! They get pregnant! "It's a miracle!" Indeed it is, and it's also known as, psychogenic infertility and the law of attraction and the law of detachment at work.

So, what do you do about the fears and doubts? First, begin to consciously choose to increase your faith, confidence, certainty, and hope intentionally. Talk yourself into feeling better. Look on the bright side and maintain that, "All is well and in Divine Order at ALL Times!"

Another way to 'talk yourself into it' is to deepen your understanding of what faith means. For example, read the following quotes and see if you don't raise your level of 'faith' comprehension:

"Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe."--St. Augustine

"When you have come to the edge of all light that you know, and are about to drop off into the darkness of the unknown, Faith is knowing one of two things will happen: There will be something solid to stand on or You will be taught to fly" - Patrick Overton

"Faith isn't faith until it's all you're holding on to." - Unknown

"You block your dream when you allow your fear to grow bigger than your faith." - Mary Manin Morrissey

Additionally, here are a few other techniques:

EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), if you have a fear or a doubt - eliminate it now with this powerful meridian therapy. If others can do it, so can you!
Meditation (a good program is the HoloSync program)
Seeking Silence and personal introspection in nature.
Read Power vs. Force and use Dr. Hawkin's Map of Consciousness to transcend the lower level beliefs.
Call any religious (secular or non secular) organization that offers prayer support. For example, call the Science of Mind (Religious Science) or Unity prayer hotlines and ask for prayers.
Miracles are a daily affair!

Your work is to launch wonderful, joyful, passionate thoughts about what you desire while maintaining your faith, confidence, and conviction that what you want, is already written.