Save Your Marriage With Valentine Breaks Not Bouquets

Clinton cards and Thorntons chocolates, bunches of flowers and bottles of champagne... it can only mean one thing; it's Valentine's Day again. February the 14th is a time for romance and sharing a little love, getting some time alone to take time out and really express how you feel. Dump the marigolds, send the kids to their grandparents and invest in a romantic weekend away.

Taking a Valentine break can be a breath of fresh air and just the thing needed to rekindle a bit of passion between lovers. It is so easy to get into a steady routine that leaves out those tender moments of love and appreciation. Statistically, the time just after New Year is the most common point at which a relationship can break down, whether it is a six month fling or a sixteen year marriage. Relate, the marriage guidance councillors say that the tragic day is actually 6th January.

To stitch a big fat silver lining on this post Christmas cloud, this is the ideal time to book a Valentine break. Through admitting that there may be relationship problems, there is as admittance that effort needs to be made, and that the sparkle needs putting back into a relationship. Often, finding the time to take this time just doesn't happen when all appears to be running smoothly, and this is where people tend to paper over the cracks.

Don't let this Valentines be silence over an awkward meal with empty gestures of love in the form of plush soft toys and a single non-scented rose. Nip the lack-lustre love problem neatly in the bud, and plan a romantic break to celebrate the day of St Valentine. There are a plethora of all inclusive deals on the market that incorporate luxury boutiques, a candle lit dinner, and champagne, which leaves plenty of time to relax and feel the love.

Of course, there are some destinations that have a reputation to ooze passion more than most; Paris for example, or Rome. But a night or two tucked away in a stone cottage in the Cotswolds is just as likely to light the pyre of passion and rev up the romance-o-meter. When booking a Valentine break, consider choosing a location that has something that you both enjoy, such as stunning architecture, art galleries or breathtaking landscapes. That's if you are planning on leaving the comfort of your hotel suite!

To help put that spark back whilst you are away, make a decision that some topics of conversation are just not up for discussion. Included in this are any financial matters, from mortgage repayments to how much the romantic break cost; anything to do with children and school; no talk about the parents, or work, or colleagues, or friends; in fact, ban yourselves from talking about anything but yourselves and where you are.

To rekindle feelings of love that seem to be lost, the first thing to remember is that they are just misplaced. Use the Valentine break to meet each other again. Pretend that you have just met, find out who you really are, reminisce about fun times and what you have in common, and take a moment to see each other without the grinds of everyday routine. After all, that is the point of this day, and why St Valentine sacrificed his life in the name of love.

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Wed, 17 Dec 2008 at 2:34 AM, by Kristy Thompson
Hi Dominic. Just read your blog on Valentine's Day and wanted to mention a great Valentine's Getaway in Chacala, Nayarit, Mexico, about an hour up the coast from Puerto Vallarta. Allan Hardman, Toltec teacher and mentor extraordinaire is vacationing and teaching in the sleepy coastal village of Chacala, and every year he offers a Valentine's Week Workshop for singles and couples and guess what the focus of the workshop is? The Five Agreements for the New Relationship (to Make Love Come True)! It's a fabulous workshop, I participated last year, there were 12 of us total, meeting each morning for a few hours, then having the afternoon to explore the village or sun on the beach, hike, eat the fresh fish caught daily by fisherman from the village, catch a taxi into Las Varas, a 10 minute ride, for whole cooked chickens, festivals and plenty of shopping. The group would meet again in the evening for a few hours and it was the most romantic and wonderful experience. And I was single! For more information (about costs, to see photos of Chacala, or to learn more about Allan Hardman, go to Joydancer.com.) Thanks!

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