8 Traits of Romantically Successful Men

Whether looking to find the love of your life or just to get lucky for an evening, some men are just better at piquing a woman's interest than others. And while some of that has to do with looks, a lot of it does not. Sure, women like a handsome guy... but we're not nearly as focused on looks as men are. Which is something that most guys can use to their advantage.

Want to be successful with women, whether in be in a relationship, in a bar, or on an internet dating site? Read on to learn some of the most common traits found in men who are successful with women.

He's focused on her. Now, this isn't to say that your life should revolve around the women you date, because the exact opposite is true. But what it does mean is that, when you're trying to pick a woman up or just beginning to date her, showing interest in who she is will be key in getting her to see you as somebody she'd like to be with. You may be thinking a hundred thoughts about what this date or this meeting could mean for you... but try to push them to the back of your mind. Focus on her, listen to her, and work on drawing her out. If you manage to do this without being insincere or, worse, worshipful, it's a great way to capture her attention.

He's relaxed. Dating is important. So the fact that the most successful daters approach it as the most casual thing in the world is a little ironic. But if you're able to train yourself to see dating and seduction as a low-pressure process, you're bound to be more successful with women.

No woman is going to feel seduced by a man with sweaty palms and a shaking voice. Or by one who is too intense or serious too soon. Instead, be lighthearted and have fun with it, and she will, too.

He's unafraid of contact. It's possible to meet a woman at a bar or on an internet dating site, hit it off and finish off as only a "good friend." Want to avoid that nice guy, good friend territory? Then you can't be afraid to touch her. Do it just once or twice during the course of a conversation, and be sure that it's casual and appropriate. A quick touch on a forearm or shoulder is enough to acknowledge the chemical connection between you, and to make it clear that you're not just having a conversation "between friends." Just be sure not to take it overboard, or you'll come off as creepy.

He's funny. Hear women say they want a man with a good sense of humor and think they're full of it? Well, we're not. Most women want a man who can make them laugh for a bunch of different reasons. For one, because they're fun to be around. But also because a funny man is one who's confident, insightful, and interesting and is not afraid to be himself. Just be clever about it rather than crude, and your sense of humor can definitely be an in.

He's unpredictable. Boring men can say all the right things and still be boring. The truth is, boring is not sexy and never will be. An unpredictable man will keep her on her toes, preventing her from catching her balance. Spontaneity (conversational and otherwise) is sexy... so it's a great way to pique her interest.

He's mature. If you've been previously married or have spent a lot of time dating, this probably isn't something you have to worry about-- you're already a mature guy. But if you're in your twenties and looking to meet more women, you've got to appear mature to seem appealing. This doesn't mean that you have to act like a girl's father. But it does mean you need to toss your South Park t-shirt into the trash and make an effort to keep your house clean. Even decorate it a bit if you can.

He's unafraid of romance. Ultra mushy men are generally not very sexy-- even if it's what women claim they want. But women don't want men who are so afraid to appear un-manly that they can't focus on anything but football and sex, either. Don't be afraid to surprise her with a nice dinner or even going to see a romantic comedy.

He's desirable. When you read all the men's magazine and websites, this is probably the main piece of advice you'll see: don't be the "I want to be with you every second" nice guy. It doesn't appeal, and it doesn't work-- even if you actually feel that way. Having a life of your own is a good first step in getting her to want to be a part of it.

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