Chance to Get My Ex Back

I was devastated when she dumped me. So I decided I would get her back--at any cost! And by doing so, I nearly obliterated my chances to get my ex back. Fortunately, I was able to turn it around in the nick of time. What did I do that nearly cost me the best relationship of my life?

I moped. This wasn't just because I was feeling down. I genuinely believed that if my ex could see how much this break up really hurt me, they would understand how much I cared. Seeing this, they would want to get back with me--right? But I couldn't have been more wrong!

Moping is *not* an attractive behavior! This is as true for women as it is for men. People want to be around other people who are happy, healthy, and fun to be around. Mopers aren't happy, they don't appear healthy, and they're just no fun to be around!

(There are a few people out there who will be attracted to moping. But these are psychological predators of the worst sort, and you should stay away from them!)

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I spied. It's natural to want to know what your ex is up to, immediately after a break up. After all, you're used to spending a large amount of time with them. It almost feels wrong not to at least know what they're up to.

You might think that keeping up with what your ex is doing, will relieve the pain and tension you're feeling after a break up. But the simple fact is, it's a lot more likely to drive you crazy instead!

You'll also start to look a little crazy, if you get caught. I didn't think I was doing anything unusual, when I asked my friends what my ex was up to, went to see if my ex was online, and drove past my ex's work. But my ex had a different opinion about it...

My ex thought I was acting like a psycho! All this did was confirm their decision to dump me. This didn't help me get my ex back at all--in fact, it only helped to completely ruin my chances!

I called her all the time. Nothing makes you look desperate and/or psycho like calling all the time! Even people are are still IN relationships get annoyed when their significant other calls constantly to check up on them. You can imagine how bad it is to do to somebody who just dumped you.

I don't have to imagine. I KNOW that my ex felt like I was harassing her--she told me so! When I asked her if it would be better if I text messaged her, she just hung up on me!

Plus, when you call or text all the time, you're showing that you don't' have enough of a life of your own. You're showing you're still hung up on your ex. Neither one of these things are attractive. They're about zero percent likely to help you win your ex girlfriend or boyfriend back.

So do your former significant other--and yourself--a favor. Lay off on the phone calls and text messages.

I wallowed in depression. Sure, it was understandable for me to get depressed. I've never met anybody who didn't get at least a little depressed after getting dumped. But I did the worst thing you can ever do with a depressing time--I just wallowed around in it.

It would have been bad enough for me to sit around thinking about the good times we'd had, and how we weren't having them any more. But I had to do one better--I sat around thinking about how depressed I was!

I kept going over in my head the exact words she said when she dumped me. I focused on how unhappy she said she was with me. I kept thinking over and over about how much I sucked, to have driven her away. I reviewed our good times in my head, th8inking about how horribly annoying I must have been being to her, without my even recognizing it.

As you might imagine, I just got more depressed. And as you might imagine, this made me extremely unattractive!

Don't make the same mistake I did. You'll just look worse if you wallow around in your depression. And please, whatever you do, don't scour your memories, looking for times when you were doing something wrong. I know from experience that you're likely to judge yourself much more harshly than you should!

Moping, spying, harassing, and wallowing in depression are some of the worst things you can do after a break up. For most people, they completely ruin whatever chances may remain to make up and salvage the relationship.

Fortunately for me, I was able to turn myself and my behaviors around and get my ex back. But it would've been a lot easier if I hadn't freaked out and indulged in these four disastrous behaviors!

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