Congratulations! The Hero Living In You Has Won The Battle, Now You Need To Win The War

As hero, you are the winner in the first round of the game. Forget about resting on your laurels though. It is lonely at the top, and the admiring crowd, the victims you saved included, will watch your every step with envy. The rarefied air also comes with delusions of superiority and righteousness. Oops! There you tumble back all the way to where you started, a victim entirely of your own doing.

If you enjoy surprises, you have hit the jackpot. The hero's role is full of them. Villains are lurking in the shadows to undo you. Trap doors unexpectedly open their jowls just as you are about to pass; and red herrings bend over backward vying for your attention.

In short, there is never a dull moment. You have to become streetwise double quick or become a statistic. At this point, the villain role also seems more and more attractive.

Let me give you some pointers so you may continue your winning ways.

* Save yourself

One of the biggest traps of the hero role is neglecting the victim inside. Instead, you draw into your life one person after another who suffered the same hurts you did as a child. So you continue to save others but not yourself. Then you are stuck in the same spot. Even though you try to save your inner victim by saving others, you will not heal unless you address your own problem. Only then will you be able to accurately feel who is in front of you, a real victim or a villain.

* Include yourself

There are many more victims than heroes. If you try to save every one of them, you will soon burn out and begin to make mistakes. In order to continue on your winning path through the game of life, you need to
look after yourself first. So exercise, because you must be strong. Eat properly, sitting down, three square meals a day. Take time to smell the roses. A martyr is a victim not a hero.

* Make your victims independent

Instead of saving the same victims repeatedly, teach them how to become heroes, so they can save themselves the next time around and teach other victims. If you do not make your victims independent, they will push you right off your pedestal and you go back to your beginnings.

* Your empathy is your greatest strength and your greatest weakness

Your heart will always go out to anyone in pain. Every time you help a true victim, you win his gratitude and admiration and find your self-love. However, your empathy makes you also vulnerable to manipulation and abuse by villains in disguise. Often, their stories are incredulous, and their wounds sometimes self-inflicted. The clue is that "nothing works" for a villain disguised as a victim.

* Don't become a zealot for your cause

You are on your way to right the wrongs that you perceive. You have a track record, followers, and an adoring public. Superiority is easy to come by, as victims and villains are many, heroes are few. So your way is the only way or at least the best way, right? That is what all the fanatics on this planet think, too from the crusaders to Bin Laden to the Ku Klux Klan. So think again, or become a villain disguised as a hero.

Heroes, you are wonderful, mighty and just what the world needs. Just make sure you do not fall into some of the more challenging twists and turns that are so prevalent, just waiting to take you down. Stay up, you deserve it.

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