Dating Tips for Singles on How to Get the Relationship you Want

Being single is something you might not want to be right now. Perhaps you've done the online dating thing, you've been to a few singles' events and not yet met the partner of your dreams.

You might have had fun living the single life, but you might be getting a little despondent, a little tired of this seemingly endless game. This is a natural human reaction when we make a lot of effort that bears little result.

Or perhaps you've been single for a long time and in some ways, it's comfortable because there is no risk of rejection, no hopes raised and expectations doused with disappointment.

Whatever situation is relevant to you as a single person, you are human and as part of human nature, you may still have an underlying need and desire to have a relationship and meet your ideal partner.

All your ups and downs, fruitless searches, short lived relationships might have left you with doubt and some limiting beliefs as to whether love will ever come your way.

This is where you can take the first step towards getting what you want. Steps to overcoming your doubt.

Doubt means you are thinking negative thoughts e.g. "This dating game isn't working" or "I can t get past three dates".
So even if you are clear about what you want at a conscious level, your unconscious mind can hide lurking limiting beliefs, which can stop you from achieving your goal. These beliefs then become a statement of fact that you have about the world, created as a result of your experiences.

Sometimes these beliefs are not even ours. They may come from stories we read about, other people's experiences and even from listening out for evidence to back our beliefs. But they are not universal truths unless you believe they are!

So how do our negative thoughts and limiting beliefs get in the way of finding the partner of our dreams?

Because you've stopped believing in your dream or started doubting that you'll achieve your goal, you focus on the belief that you will NOT get what you want and give attention to all the things that are happening in your life as evidence to back this up e.g. going to a singles event and not meeting someone with whom you exchange contact details.

As a result, you start taking actions in line with your negative thoughts. For example, if your limiting belief is that there won't be interesting people to meet at singles' events, then you might stop going. Or if you haven t had many hits to your profile on an internet dating site your confidence might take a knock and so you stop online dating instead of trying another site.

Negative thoughts can affect how we feel. If you go to a party with the limiting belief that "There wont be anyone there that I fancy" or "No one will be interested in me" then your general mood is affected.

Feeling less energetic and enthusiastic affects your attitude, which in turn affects your body language and your behaviour. You don t make the effort to engage in conversation, people aren't enthused when they talk to you while you're in this frame of mind, and hey presto, your beliefs are realised and nobody was interested in you!

Your self fulfilling prophecy has come true because energy goes where our attention is.

Limiting beliefs can be very strong. If you programme your mind with information, it listens, so be careful what you feed it!

If you tend to think negatively e.g. "I won't" rather than "I will", make sure you turn what you say to yourself into a positive statement e.g. "I could" instead of "I can't"

A key piece of dating advice is to start improving the relationship you have with yourself.

Being SELF AWARE is the first step to helping yourself. Once you are aware of your negative thoughts and limiting beliefs, changing them can open up a whole new world of choice and possibilities.

By taking these dating tips on board and changing your focus to looking out for the good things, giving attention to what you appreciate and are grateful for helps you to start thinking positive thoughts.

This will gradually change your attitudes, your emotions, and your actions, all of which will have a knock on effect on how you are perceived. This dating advice will lead to others being attracted to you so that you achieve your relationship goal of finding your ideal partner.

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