How to Attract Women: The Psychology of Attraction

To understand how to attract women, I'm going to give you a broad perspective on the psychology of attraction, followed by more specific perspectives.

First, let's look at how to attract women from a broad perspective.

The underlying need for a female human is: To find a suitable male who will be able to produce favorable offspring, which he will then help raise in a safe environment by being a provider and protector.

Regardless if men or women think 'yes' or 'no' to having children, we instinctively sense whether or not a person is suitable breeding partner.

The fact is that 'breeding potential' drives much of our attraction mechanisms even if we are only after a quick fling, or a one-night stand.

The good news is that when you learn how to attract women you will be able to 'set off' a multitude of attraction triggers in women and be subsequently pursued in just the same way as we men pursue very attractive women.

The mating dance: Unlike some animals that breed at particular times of the year, the human mating dance happens 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and 365 days a year.

We are constantly dancing for each other. If we're not dancing, we're often thinking of ways to make our dance even better.

For men, that may mean getting a better job, developing a more charming personality, working out at a gym, getting a new haircut or purchasing material possessions.

Look around. Notice all the things that males strive to achieve, and realize that our underlying motives are often to gain higher status in order to receive more attention from women.

Granted, there are other reasons that inspire men to achieve. A few of the many, many examples:

- Be seen as someone who is smart/tough/savvy/funny/etc.
- Gain more power over others.
- Acquire wealth.
- Become financially independent.
- Have better means to survive with.
- More friends.
- Personal confidence and satisfaction.

But don't all of those eventually link back to giving you higher status and thus more favorable attention from women?

Exactly. It's all one big mating dance! Genetically, women are wired to find men who are good survivors and who will produce offspring that will also survive easily.

The underlying psychological/emotional need that a woman craves to fill via a man is not answered in one sentence. That's the genius of it.

Its complexity is the reason you are reading this book and the reason women are reading articles titled "Why doesn't he call me anymore" "Am I really in love?" and "He's a nice guy, but why do I only want to be friends with him?"

Traditionally, we hear that women prefer tall, dark and handsome men who have big penises, lots of money and high-status.

But, if that was the only thing women felt attraction for then the only guys getting laid would be tall, dark, handsome, well-hung guys who are rich and famous.

Look around again. Males of all shapes and sizes are in relationships with the billions of beautiful women on this planet.

They are using their personality (and often average looks) to attract women. So, why aren't you doing the same?

The good news for you is that you can develop pretty much all of the personality traits and behaviors that naturally attract women.

How to attract women with your personality: You don't have to be a 'typically good-looking' guy to attract even the most beautiful of women.

Why? Because the reality of attraction is this: Although women find handsome men attractive, they feel a stronger attraction for certain male behaviors and personality traits.

A man's looks can be important but they can also be completely ignored, depending on how he makes her feel with his personality.

Although being a physically strong and good-looking man will help with attractiveness, confidence and personality is often all you need.

Having a little trouble believing that? Then look at all the ugly, financially poor guys dating beautiful women the next time you are in a public place.

It happens all the time. Why? Because attraction happens on an unconscious level and is automatically triggered women come across certain male behaviors and personality traits.

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