How to Easily Find a Friend with Benefits

It's probably the dream fantasy for ALL guys...
You have an attractive woman in your life whose only there for sex. When you get bored, you can make ONE phone call and a willing partner will show up at your doorstep.
The best part is the sex comes with 'no strings attached'. You can get it without being in a relationship or showing any level of commitment.

Sound like a dream come true? Well like I said, lots of guys fantasize about finding a woman like this, but they have no clue about how to locate her.

Whether it's called 'friends with benefits' or a 'booty call', there will be times in your life when you want a woman for just ONE thing. Now there are a LOT of positives of being in a committed relationship. But sometimes there will be moments when you want a woman who is there just for sex.

The question is: How can I find a 'friend with benefits'?

Well in this article, I'll reveal my simple plan for locating a woman like this. If you follow this five step system, you'll increase your chances of locating this type of woman.

Step 1- Find a suitable woman

You might think that only 'promiscuous' girls have casual sex. The truth is MOST women go through phases in their lives when they're not looking for a boyfriend. During this period all they want to do is have FUN.

Your goal is simple. When you're out meeting women, look for the ones who openly talk about devoting time to their careers or how they're not looking for boyfriends. Obviously the girls who are NOT looking for a relationship will make a great 'friend with benefits'.

Step 2- Openly discuss sex

If you're looking for a temporary thing, you want to focus on the girls who show an indication that they don't want a commitment. When you're talking to them, you want to display an open sexuality about your personality.

This means engaging women in conversations which concentrate on sexual topics and playfully bantering with them. However you want to avoid being perceived as a 'creep'. So when I say sexual, I don't mean you should make 'perverted' comments about her. Instead simply bring up the topic in a non-specific manner.

Step 3- Build attraction

No woman will jump in the sack with you unless she finds you attractive. So when you discuss sex, make sure you're talking to her in a flirtatious manner which she'll find attractive.

The only way this plan will work is if she is attracted to you. As a result, it's important that you know how to create that spark of chemistry. So don't act like her buddy, instead behave like a guy who can trigger her emotional and sexual desire.

Step 4- Set boundaries

When a woman meets a guy for the fist time, she'll place him in two categories: Boyfriend or Not-Boyfriend material.

You probably think being placed in the boyfriend category is a good thing. However this is not the case. Women typically hold off on having sex with guys they consider 'boyfriend material'.

Your goal is to be perceived as a fun guy, but NOT a guy she'd want as a boyfriend. This will easily increase your chances of having a sexual relationship with her.

The important thing is always emphasize your sexuality, but never act like a boyfriend. One way to do this is SPECIFALLY mention that you're not looking for a girlfriend.

By acting in this manner, you'll set a clear boundary that indicates the nature of your relationship. You're basically telling this woman that you enjoy her company, but you're both free to pursue OTHER relationships.

Step 5- Keep it Casual

If everything goes right, you'll develop a pattern where you're steadily having sex with a woman. While this is great thing for many guys, there are a few pitfalls which can complicate your life.

In order to have a stress-free 'friend with benefits' relationship you should make sure that you NEVER develop a girlfriend/boyfriend dynamic. So here are a few simple rules for keeping things casual:

* Reinforce your boundaries while treating her with RESPECT

* Understand that she's probably dating other men

* Only 'hang out' once or twice a week

* Don't demonstrate classic 'courting' signals

* Never hurt her feelings by flaunting other relationships in your life

* Make it worth her time by being an exciting AND interesting guy

A 'friend with benefits' can be a fun experience. If you know how to find her and create the right kind of dynamic, then you'll have 'no strings attached' sex.

Simply follow the five step plan I discussed in this article, and you'll discover it's actually quite easy to discover a woman like this!

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