Overcoming Rejection From Women

Okay.....so you see a cute girl, you WANT to talk to her, but then something keeps you from doing it.  I'm telling you, the longer I'm in the game the more I realize that our own EMOTIONS keep us from doing the things we really want to do.

Fear of rejection is the #1 reason why guys do NOT approach women.  If you think about "rejection" logically, you should realize that even the worse case scenario where the girl might actually be a little rude that YOU can handle it.

Yet our mind plays tricks on us.  Just like Yoda said, "You've got to UN-learn what you've learned."

Smart puppet turned CGI animation, don't you think?

But seriously....logically speaking, NOT approaching a girl because you don't know what to say or having a fear of rejection does NOT really make any sense, yet millions, upon millions of men FEEL it.

If you FEEL it, it FEELS real to you.  So real that it's almost impossible to convince your brain that approaching that fine girl is no big deal.

Let's take a look at another irrational fear.  The FEAR of not knowing what to say.  It's only because of your own pre- conceived notions and life-long conditioning that keeps you from making the approach. My brother and I were talking about this the other day.  He observed, "Hey Rod, I've been doing massive amounts of approaching so far this year and I've noticed that it's actually EASIER to talk to cuter girls than the ones that are just so-so or kinda cute."

I've made the same observation.  I've found that women that have higher social value (generally more attractive) are generally EASIER to talk to.  This is true because they are generally more SOCIAL, have a better understanding of the social matrix and it's nuances, and know they have plenty of options, so they tend to be more sociable when you approach them.

Let's take this concept of "rejection" a little deeper.  Would you have any problems walking up to a 75 year old woman who was shopping for groceries?  Actually, would you have any problems striking a conversation with her anywhere?  Of course not.  Because you don't see her as threatening and you also don't want anything from her, other than maybe having a brief interaction with her.

This is what you have to do when you're approaching cute girls. You've got to stop WANTING something from them.  Secondly, you have to see them as non-threatening, because if you apply logic and reality, they really are non-threatening.  If you walk up to a group of good-looking girls they aren't going to stab you. And in 99% of the cases, they're not going to be rude.  If you give women a chance they tend to be very nice.  If you do not believe this to your core you WILL approach women the wrong way and they will behave negatively to you.

So it's important to be relaxed when you approach them.  And this comes with practice.  Another thing to think about is that only people that know you and care about you can truly "reject" you, so when you walk up to a stranger so you can talk to her, never forget that she does NOT know who you are.  So no matter what happens, she CANNOT reject you.  She might reject your approach, but there's no way you should take it personally because she is not rejecting "you".  Understand?

The one thing that sets apart men that are really good with women compared to those that aren't (other than making massive amounts of approaches) is their mindset.  They believe to their core that rejection is all in their head and they go out with that in mind.

There are a TON of ways to overcome rejection from girls.  The most obvious is to learn as much as you can about pick up and the game, go out and set a schedule for making approaches, and then change and tweak your approaches based on the feedback you get.  The other way to do it is to change the way you think. And for most people that means using their will power. You've simply got to force yourself to start seeing the world differently.

The fastest way I learned to change the way I thought was doing two things and doing them consistently:

Reading a ton of books that dealt with pick up, dating, seduction, business, and psychology.

Secondly, approaching women virtually every single day.

You will learn very quickly, once you are out in the field practicing, that you will develop a very thick skin and you will no longer fear rejection.

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