Relationship Advice: Are You Ready To Commit?

Ask yourself the following questions to find out if you're ready to make a commitment in your relationship.

How important is your relationship compared to other areas of your life? Make a list of the different areas of your life including career, friends, family, finances, fitness, and interests. If your relationship is more important than other areas of your life such as work and friends, then you're serious about your relationship. A person ready to make a commitment will have the relationship at or near the top of his/her priority list.

Does the idea of a long-term relationship or marriage make you nauseous or instantly bring on a headache? If you answered yes to this question, you might have anxiety around commitment. This doesn't necessarily mean that you can't make a commitment and be successful. You have to investigate why you feel anxious regarding commitment. Did your parents have a nasty divorce? Were you in an abusive relationship in the past? You may have things lingering from your past that don't realize affect your current relationship. You can deal with these issues by talking to your significant other, friends, or a therapist. Don't ignore your past because it will affect you future.

Do you want to get to know your man's family and friends? If you truly care about someone, you probably want to know the other significant people in his life. Don't worry about feeling nervous about meeting his friends and family. It's only natural to want to make a good impression.

Do you like being around his friend's and family? It's one thing to want to meet and learn more about these people, but do you want to spend time with them once you know them. Can you see yourself spending the holidays with these people? It's not a must to get along with all of his friends and family, especially if he doesn't get along with them. However, you might get tired of spending time with people that make you cringe every time you hear their voices. If you do get along with them, it will make family dinners and holidays much easier for you in the future.

Have you discussed important "couple" topics such as children, finances, and career paths? Do you know how many children he wants to have? Does he have thousands of dollars of debt? Does his career involve a lot of travel? If you don't have the answers to these questions, you should be wary about making a commitment to this person. When your friends ask you questions about him do you get embarrassed because you don't know any of the answers? Get to know the person before you think about making a serious commitment. The answers to these questions could mean the difference between happiness and misery.

Is he one of the first people that you call when something significant happens in your life? If you get a promotion at work, who would you want to celebrate with? If your mother was diagnosed with cancer, would you rush over to his apartment? You want to commit to someone that you can share your major life moments with.

If your partner got a job promotion that entailed moving across the country, how would you feel? Would you wish him luck and kiss him goodbye or cry into your pillow at night wondering if you should ask him to stay? Let your feelings be your guide on this one.

Do you have trouble introducing the person as your boyfriend? If you wince every time you introduce your significant other as your boyfriend, you might not be ready to commit. Figure out why putting a title on your relationship is difficult for you. It may relate back to past experiences that you haven't dealt with yet.

Do you want to spend your free time with this person? When your girlfriends call to tell you about the girls night out on Saturday, do you wish that you could include your boyfriend? Spending time with friends is extremely important but missing your man while you're out is a sign that you're ready to commit. Do you get excited about the idea of spending time with your guy or do you wish you were at home reading a book with a hot cup of tea?

Be honest with yourself when you answer these questions and you'll know if you're ready to commit. If you're not ready to commit, it doesn't mean you have to end the relationship. It might mean that you need more time to figure it out.

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