The One Thing You Must Never Ever Do Around Women

I think an entire article needs to be written to address this topic because its something I see guys try and fail at time and time and time again,. It just doesn't seem to be getting into guys heads, all this social preconditioning from the environment is telling us the exact opposite so why should you believe me? Your probably confused as to what it is I am talking about here, I'm talking about trying to get a girl to *like* you, trying to somehow persuade her by putting her on a pedestal, bending to her every whim and acting like her little bitch. Every guy says he's not controlled by his women, then 10 minutes later he'll be talking about how he's going to take her away on a romantic vacation to impress her and show her how much of a good guy he is... ugh... it's any wonder women get bored easily with men, they are so predictable, so boring and they all act alike.

Women don't want to be put on a pedestal, you better get that into your head now or its going to be a harsh and painful learning lesson for you, with girls telling you your just "not compatible", "not her type" or she "doesn't feel anything for you" time and time again. You see these girls could have felt something with you, if you were more fun, challenging and gave her what she really wanted, rather than being another ass-kisser who bends to their every whim. Sorry about being so harsh but it seems to just not be getting through to a lot of guys, of course I'm quite sure those same guys are going to give me quotes of thousands of girls saying things like "I want a guy that treats me like a princess". Yes that is what girls SAY they want, which is in reality quite far away from what they really desire. If you actually look at those same girls that say they want a guy that treats them like a princess you will find them dating guy's that are the complete opposite of that, bikers, idiots that treat them bad and more, because that is what they are REALLY attracted to, at a deep emotional level, not at a logical "what a sane girl thinks" level. If you ever want to know what a women really wants, look at what she does and how she acts, not what she says.

Along with this comes the same old thing all guys tend to do (hell I even see myself doing it sometimes) and that is changing your likes and dislikes to match hers, perhaps she likes a certain band, so you pretend to like them too in order to get her to like you more. This never works and you'll often end up doing things you hate to appease her then not getting anywhere anyway. Having likes and dislikes in common rarely attracts people together, having core personality traits that are similar is great, just not likes and dislikes. Often its more fun for women to be with someone who likes all the opposite bands/foods/drinks to them as that person will be more adventurous and fun to be around, not a predictable bore. Most of all don't pretend to be someone your not, don't pretend to be caring for the elderly if you hate them, and don't say you love children if you can't stand them, it's just not going to work out well if you start off lying like this.

Last of all just be yourself. Now being yourself doesn't mean being sloppy, farting when you like and/or being rude or arrogant towards her, it simply means treating her like you would a female friend. If you don't have any female friends I'd HIGHLY suggest you go out and get some as they are a godsend, don't listen to what they say about attracting girls (though watch what kind of guys they go for) and just hang around them only as friends (don't hit on them, or do anything sexual AT ALL). Just get comfortable being around them and you'll be comfortable around women in general, realizing that they are not so scary and often just like you. Now being yourself means simply treating your girl as if she was a female friend, you treat her with respect and politeness and slightly different to your male mates, but you don't go putting her on a pedestal (because there's nothing you want/need from her) and you don't treat her more special than anyone else. This is honestly just how girls want to be treated, just like everyone else (with some sexual spice on the side ;) ), and they just want guys to be their normal natural selves around them. Can't you do that for her?

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