The Relationship Game Of Variety Between The Two Sexes

Once upon a time, a young woman went out with the same young man for a long period of time, looking for that special engagement, lost her virginity on her wedding night, and went on to play her version of Donna Boring Reed while raising the kids that popped out with inevitable lack of birth control choices.

Thankfully, times have progressed and the liberation of women has created some pretty phenomenal scenarios for guys.

Some women are still interested in finding long term relationships and are more or less only interested in long term relationships. These women, regardless of age, race, ethnic background, or socioeconomic class are among the minority. Don't get too excited. Not all women are willing to admit to the fact that they will fill in their time with something a little less stable. Some women just aren't interested in quantifying their life based on expectation and are just open to whatever unfolds, at least for awhile.

There are a significant number of women who derive a great sense of satisfaction from playing harder than they work and living it up on a moment to moment basis. Naturally, these women can be found in the under thirty age bracket, but don't get disappointed yet if you're seeking a more mature and experienced woman. Women as old as their seventies have expressed interest in something less committed.

The most interesting bit of news for interested guys is that the majority of women are more than willing to experience the occasional one night stand or a casual sexual relationship without the need to turn you into her handyman, taxi driver, babysitter. Many women realize the value in maintaining an active and healthy sexual relationship even when they are bogged down with the kids' needs, the dog's needs, the ex's needs, and your potential needs.

Of course, finding out what a woman wants from a relationship should be as easy as just asking her. I've tried it, and sometimes I get the truth and sometimes I don't. Some women think they just want a casual, no commitment relationship only to confess several months later that they have fallen in love with you and want to change the parameters of the relationship. Other women seems to tell you they want one type of relationship only to blindside you when you aren't falling into line as though you were experiencing the opposite type of relationship.

It would be helpful if all women could be counted on just to tell you exactly what they wanted. I believe that it would be fair to say that there are some women who really don't know what they want, others who change their mind along the way, a handful that will tell you up front what their expectations are, and a tony percentage that will intentionally mess with your mind.

Of course, men often change their mind as well. On more than one occasion I was sure I didn't want to get deeply involved. But I would have been missing out on some serious potential had I stayed there. Relationships do evolve, and it is okay for either party to change their mind, provided that everyone is being honest about it. Problems arise when someone is changing the parameters of the relationship and not cluing in the other half of the relationship.

When you are attempting to discern a women's level of interest, I would strongly recommend staying away from stereotypical assumptions, defining the relationship in any way that limits its potential to grow into something different, and making assumptions for the long haul. Life is fluid and so are relationships. Giving them a chance to breathe and change often makes a relationship much stronger and avoids dishonesty.

While your choices are up to you, I strongly advise staying away from women who are already involved and just want carpenter to hammer her from time to time when the significant other is out of town. While this scenario might open up a really good time for some guys, sooner or later the cat comes home and the mice get caught. It might seem like insignificant information, but significant others generally do not respond well to such scenes and the guy in the bed is usually held at least equally accountable for the indiscretion. Besides, why disrespect yourself like that?

Women aren't always easy to figure out, and sometimes (okay, maybe more often than just sometimes) men can be duped by a beautiful woman. Staying on this side of right, being honest, and opening the door for honest, even gritty conversation can lead to some pretty interesting results. Sometimes simply putting it out there makes a woman crazy with desire.

Allowing a woman the right to let her guard down, to speak frankly, to leave the judgments of society on the other side of a closed door can bring out the beastly nature just under the surface. Women like to be seen as in control, but they love a guy who can let them lose it and never need to apologize or explain. Once you give a woman the freedom to make choices, even bad choices, she often responds with full gusto.

Keep your own plate clean. If all you are interested in is a casual fling and you meet a beautiful woman who insists that all she is interested in is a long term committed relationship, or vice verse, don't be foolish and believe that you can actually change her mind. Believing that you are that powerful is only going to lead to some pretty serious issues that are likely to involve lying, hurting other people, bringing down your momentum as well as your own.

It's unnecessary and sometimes even cruel. You can not control her desires, wants, or behaviors but you sure as hell are in control of your own. Using a woman, deceiving her in order to get off, really just turns women off to the male species altogether.

I am a firm believer in that anything goes between two consenting adults as long as no one is getting hurt. In order to be two consenting adults, there has to be enough communication so that everyone knows what they are consenting to, otherwise the best you have is a guessing game. It isn't necessary, or even wise, in today's society to guess what a woman is looking for.

As long as you are straight up, and act accordingly to the guidelines of the relationship that you and she set in place, at the very least you are less likely to lose in a situation and at best, you've got a free ticket for a seriously wild ride. Women can be beautiful creatures with all the trimmings that make a guy forget his self made guidelines.

Never let a beautiful woman talk you into abandoning your own set of rules and never have so many rules that there isn't any room for some fun. Respect everyone involved and avoid wrecking a home or two, and your dating life holds the potential for some serious and interesting play time. Good luck out there and remember to always, no matter what, play safely.

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