Use This Strategy When Approaching a Group of Women

As you probably know, approaching women can be tricky. Whenever you spot an attractive girl, there is a HUGE chance she'll be surrounded by a group of friends. The problem is at some point, you'll have to approach a woman when she's with her pals.

So here's the question...

How do you handle the members of this group?

Well the truth is each member of a social group is different. And it's up to YOU to find out what role each person is playing. Then your job will be to apply a different strategy that'll help you attract your target woman.

In this article, I'm going to review the four members of a group and how you must deal with each. Let's get started...

#1- Your Target

The first member of the group is obvious! Whenever you approach a group of people, you must determine which woman you're pursuing. By doing this, you'll steer the conversation towards attracting her and making this girl interested in you.

So when you first approach a group, your first job is to identify your target. Now once you do this, you'll then initially ignore her. Instead you'll want to focus the conversation on the other three groups of people.

Eventually you will direct your attention to your target but you want to make the other three types of people comfortable with your presence. Once 'you're accepted' you can focus your attraction building routines on your target.

#2- The Obstacles

Identifying 'The Obstacles' is simple. Everyone who is NOT your target is your obstacle. Now this title may seem extreme, there's logic behind it. All your target's friends are considered obstacle because they'll ruin ANY chance with your target if they don't like what you're saying.

So on the approach, you must immediately work on getting the obstacles to like you. You want to befriend them and demonstrate that you're an interesting guy. Only when you've attracted the interest of the obstacles will you be able to move on to your target.

#3- Other Guys

Now there are two types of obstacles which stand out from the crowd. They are 'Other Guys' and 'The Leader'. When you approach a group, you must direct your conversation opener at them and work on getting them to accept you.

The truth is other guys can quickly destroy your attraction routine. So these guys must be acknowledged and dealt with. If they don't like you, then they'll do their best to destroy your chances of success.

When you approach a group, you must respect the guys in it. Before you even talk to your target, you should find out if ANY guy is in a relationship with her. Obviously if you discover that one of the guys is her boyfriend, then you should move on or acquire a new target.

As I said before, the initial goal of an approach is to befriend the obstacles. When you're initially talking to a group of people, do your best to make the guys to agree with what you're saying.

One technique is to introduce these guys to other girls. If you act like their wing man, then they won't care if you're 'hitting on' their friend.

#4- The Leader

Within ANY group of people, there will be 'The Leader' who controls a large portion of the interaction. At the point when he or she decides you're not interesting you'll be TOAST!

During the interaction, it's important to identify this leader and focus on pleasing him or her. Generally you can spot the leader by studying the body language of the group. This will be the person who the group follows or acts submissive around.

If you can't spot the leader, then you can make the chauvinistic decision that the one of the males is the leader of the group. But if there isn't a male present, then you should focus your attention on the most attractive female. While these statements seem a bit sexist, most of the time they're completely accurate.

Just like with the males in the group, your goal is to make the leader like you. If you make this person interested, then the rest of the interaction will be easy.

Attracting a girl in a group presents a unique challenge for a lot of guys. The trick is to identify what roles her friends play and know how to deal with each. Once you do this, it'll become easy to talk to her and make her interested in you.

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