Wanna be a Player? You Might Lose Out

Every woman has had an experience with a man who was a player at some point in time, and she probably got her heart broken. Let me give you a rundown of a players' usual mission when meeting women. He stalks the bars and clubs, any places where women are know to frequent. The player is attractive, well groomed and knows how to dress with his own sense of style.

He makes eye contact with a beautiful woman and approaches. After giving her a well-rehearsed smile, he gives her a line. The same line he has already used to hit on a few other women at the bar. Guys who wanna be a player know how to be charming, he gets her laughing and knows how to lower his voice to sound smooth and sexy. The player knows what topics of conversation will stimulate her interest and before the night is over he gets her number. The more expert players may even take her out that night or have sex with her.

At this point you are probably thinking their is no downside to being a player. You would be wrong, the player is only after one thing, sex, not that there is anything wrong with that guys, but is it what you want. If you are the type of guy who wants a long relationship, are exceptionally honest, and think you wanna be a player you would not be happy. Consider the possible downsides:

Repercussions of lying

Even though players may get more sex than you may it often comes at a price. I had a friend who considered himself a smooth player. He used to brag about his sexual exploits all the time and I have seen him date tons of stunning women so I know they were true. To be so successful at dating players have to lie and deceive women and one day it caught up with my friend.

After picking up a woman the night before and bringing her back to his place to have sex with he overslept the next morning. By the time he woke up his overnight guest had run into another girlfriend of his. A girl had been seeing for several weeks and invited over for a morning hookup. When they realized what he was doing, they were furious! They trashed his apartment then went downstairs and trashed his convertible.

I am not trying to say that if you wanna be a player the same thing will happen too you, I'm not even seeing that being a player is necessarily a bad thing, but before you decide to go that route you should truly understand what is involved and what other options there are. Besides the wanna be a player type of guy there are the nice guys, the celebrities, even the geek and their truly are advantages and disadvantages to each type.

Honestly, the best approach is probably being true to you, just learning to include into your dating game skills that women find attractive. Though you might think being a player looks like a lot of fun it may involve a lot more time than you are willing to invest. Just increasing your ability to approach a woman, being able to speak about interesting topics and letting her see your interest would be much faster.

Sneaking Around

If you wanna be a player you may also end up developing a reputation around town. It is a smart idea if trying to be a player to be a little low key with your dates so women do not find out about each other and get jealous and vindictive. I have a friend who is a player and has to keep up the cost of having several cell phones to keep up with all the calls from women he receives. He even has a second home for when it starts to get too much and he needs a little alone time, most of the time he cannot even keep all the girls straight. If my friend had instead used the "start to finish" dating method he would be able to be honest about his intentions and openly date 2 or 3 girls at once without their being any jealousy or hurt feelings too worry about.

Guys with the most dating success do not:

Spend a ton of money on women. Women are attracted to them because of their personality and charm.

Tell lies or exaggerate to hold a woman's attention. Smart guys realize they are worthy of dating beautiful women regardless of how much they make, where they live or what kind of car they drive.

Juggle several girls at once. They know what women want and need to hear, able to be honest and tell a woman they want an open relationship and see as many women as they want on the side.

After reading all this guys, I only have one question. Do you still wanna be a player?

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