Death and Divorce

The persons who shared everything will no longer be staying together. Whatever may be the animosity, at the time of separation, it would make the persons feel for the isolation. The reason may be either that they are going to miss the persons once they loved, or suffer distress because of their failed marriage. Moreover, there are also specific feelings, attitudes and dynamics associated with whether one is in the role of the initiator or the receiver of the decision to break up. For instance, the initiator might experience fear, relief, resentment, doubt, and sometimes guilt, whereas the receiver might experience shock, betrayal, victimisation, insecurity and anger.

Think for a while, that when divorce alone could cause considerable distress what would be the situation if death occurred to their spouses? No human being could imagine the loss of their loved ones. The emotional impact of death is as severe as that of a divorce in the concerned family; the misery and the process of healing do have a beginning, a middle, and an end. Though they may seem endless, the pain and confusion surrounding death and divorce do gradually lighten and finally go away over years. Time assuages agonies and pains.
When the family of the deceased thinks of identifying a person to tell about the death of the member in their family, they seldom think of the divorced spouse. This is because people often assume that the marriage is ended, and so is the relationship. They even hesitate to invite them to view the casket, to sit in the room for visitation or even to invite them for food after the service. They rarely bother about the feelings of the ex-spouse at the time of mourning for the death of their loved ones.
With these agonies and pains on one side, it is very common that women are undoubtedly benefited in the UK as a result of their divorce from the spouse. Nowadays the settlement amounts have increased to facilitate the victims in leading a comfortable life. It is true that women are gaining wealth through divorce.

In recent years, one has come across a number of striking public divorce cases which have engrossed the headlines of several popular newspapers and magazines. For instance, the ex-wife of the celebrity Golfer Colin Montgomerie benefited through her divorce by receiving a £15m divorce settlement. In another case, the court ordered that the ex-wife of Middlesbrough Soccer star Ray Parlour would be at liberty to get one-third share of his future earnings too. This was ruled because of the accepted fact by the court that she played a major role in promoting his talents earlier.

Very recently, in the last year, the House of Lords ruled that Melissa Miller, the financier’s ex-wife should receive a divorce settlement of £5m - a quarter of her ex-husband's fortune. This was in compensation for an unsuccessful marriage not lasting more than three years. Though she had a career of her own, she enjoyed the benefits of the alimony. Similarly, Julia McFarlane was awarded with annual payments of £250,000 for leading her future life, from her ex-husband. This was awarded by way of compensating her for the successful legal career she would have attained, had she not got married to him and raised a family.

As per a recent survey published last year by the Accountants Grant Thornton, not only the wives of very rich men do well in divorce settlement and attain wealth, but also the wives of ordinary men too gained from the divorce. The survey stated that the average ‘pot of wealth’ to be divided on divorce stood at £1m in 2005. By and large, housewives who are not the breadwinners of the family and who do not work got 53 per cent of it. Andrea McLaren, the firm's senior specialist in marital settlements, says that England is reflected as the most 'divorce-friendly' jurisdiction for women. She adds that there are mounting numbers of individuals who have holiday homes and other assets abroad and that the state of affairs is becoming more complex and that they would welcome EU-wide divorce rules.

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