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Why Women Push for Divorce
Divorce rates are higher now more than ever before and there seems to be no stopping to the upward trend. While traditionally not many women opted for a divorce because of low financial independence and social stigma attached to divorce, women these days are prompt to initiate the divorce process without any second thoughts. In fact, recent studies have proved that it is the women who initiate the divorce in most of the divorce cases. So, what motivates women to seek divorce?
Why Do Women Divorce Men?
Traditionally, women used to keep tolerating a bad or abusive marriage. However, women these days feel much more empowered and are no longer ready to accept an average marriage. Women are comfortable about accepting their ‘divorced’ status and are well aware of their legal rights. We will explore why women seek divorce in the following section.
Bad Marriage
Earlier, women used to accept a bad marriage very easily. While women in the past would have never been sure of whether or not they actually want divorce, women of today not only know when they want divorce but are also not hesitant about being the first ones to initiate it. When a marriage turns sour, it can be very hard to cope with the stress related to a bitter marriage. If you are a working woman, it can be harder to balance an unhappy marriage and a demanding career. When women feel that the constant worrying and discontent related to marriage has reached a peak, they seek divorce.
Delayed Pregnancy
Traditionally, it was common for couples to have children in their early years of marriage because of lack of family planning methods. Women too were not liberated enough to voice their opinions if they did not want to get pregnant.
In fact, in earlier days, women were supposed to don the role of a traditional homemaker by essentially adopting motherhood as soon as possible. Therefore, responsibility of children coupled with lack of financial power used to deter women from seeking divorce. However, the woman of today is very different. Women these days do not opt for pregnancy for a very long time after marriage. The decision to divorce becomes easier when there are no children involved.
Financial Independence
In earlier days, since women’s financial independence was low, women did not know how to support themselves financially if they opted for divorce. However, women these days are more financially independent and career-oriented. In addition, women these days are more aware of what they want because of this independence.
Due to financial independence, the decision to divorce has become very easy these days. Financially independent women do not need to think about how they will support themselves, where they will stay, or how they will manage their finances after divorce. Such women feel much more confident during the divorce process and their anxiety levels are much lower.
Women Favoured in Most of the Divorce Cases
In earlier times, courts used to favour men. In addition, not many women were even aware of their legal rights pertaining to divorce. Therefore, most women feared divorce due to their sheer ignorance and lack of preference in court.
Women are aware that courts these days favour women in divorce financial settlements and child custody-related issues. Therefore, with the help of competent lawyers, it has become easy for them to swing the divorce’s outcome in their favour. In fact, in many cases, wives get a handsome amount as spousal maintenance allowance from their husbands as well. Therefore, divorce has become a win-win situation for women these days.
Seek Freedom
Many women devote so much time to their household, their husbands, and their children that somewhere down the line, they feel lost. It is common for such women to feel that they have lost their identities because they are hardly able to give any time to themselves.
The situation can seem even more testing when your spouse or children fail to understand your quest for self. When women reach such a stage, the marriage can seem very frustrating. It is common for such women to seek divorce in order to search their identities and seek personal freedom.
Communication Breakdown
Communication is the most important thing in a marriage for women. How often have you found yourself telling your husband “we need to talk� Women are able to connect with their spouses when they talk to them. However, it is common for couples to reach a stage wherein almost any conversation can lead to a fight. Women are more likely to be affected by a communication breakdown and, therefore, they are more likely to seek divorce due to this reason.
About the Author
James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you would like more information on how to get a quickie Divorce see http://www.quickie-divorce.com
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