How to Stop a Breakup

All too often, relationships end for preventable reasons. Just because you and your mate might be headed for separation, doesn't mean that it's not meant to be. It may just mean that you're missing out on something. Just pay attention to what's wrong, learn how to fix it, and you'll know how to stop a break up!

Lack of communication. Don't let anybody tell you that the number one reason for divorce is money troubles: it's all about communication. There are two major mistakes most people make with communication.

The first is that we often don't really listen to what the other person is saying. We're too busy thinking about what we want. We often listen to what someone is saying, just enough to try and get them to change their mind about it. This kind of mistake is most commonly made by women--but women aren't entirely immune to this!

This second major mistake is that many of us hold things in when we want to tell our partner about them. There are many people who've gotten back with their exes after finding out how the ex had REALLY felt, or what they'd thought. "If I'd only known..." is an oft-repeated phrase of these people. And there's no better time than the present to tell your former mate what you're feeling and thinking!

Lack of sex. It happens in all but the rarest of relationships: we meet, find out the sex is great, and are all over each other for what seems like an extended honeymoon.

Eventually, though, life gets in the way. The demands of jobs, children, and other things can cut into our time. And getting into a routine, while you think it'd make sex more frequent, often has just the opposite effect. Fortunately, this can be fixed!

Fixing this may be just as simple as making a little time during the morning to be with your mate, or knowing when to say when and cutting back on hobby or "extra-curricular" activities during the day.

If it's a case of libidos just not being what they used to be, try getting a little more exercise. You'll be surprised at how much a half-hour of exercise, can do for your sex life!

Or, it may come back down to communication. Even couples that are able to talk and listen to each other, sometimes have problems communicating in the bedroom. This can sometimes stifle libido for one or both partners.

Different lifestyles. Everybody grows. Everybody changes. And sometimes our lifestyles change more than we ever planned for them to. This can really cause some stress in a relationship. But it doesn't have to cause the end.

Perhaps one or both of your has taken on a new job with longer hours. It could be a move to a new city--for one of many reasons--a dying relative living in the home, or any one of a million different things that can affect our lifestyles in a major way. These kinds of changes often cause people to wonder if they are right for their mates, or if their mates are right for them anymore.

When you and your mate first got together, you did so for reasons other than simple circumstances in your life. So new circumstances shouldn't change what you love about each other!

Adapting to new circumstances may involve compromise on both partners' parts. But for most of us, it's worth working something out!

These three reasons so many relationships end--lack of communication, lack of sex, and changing lifestyles--don't have to spell the end for YOUR relationship. This article isn't the be-all and end-all on how to stop a break up, but it should get you started in the right direction!

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