Keeping Things Steamy in a Long Distance Relationship

Millions of people manage to make long distance relationships work. Perhaps they met their match on an internet dating site and haven't yet managed to relocate. Or maybe their spouse or partner is in the military, or has a career which requires a lot of travel. No matter the reasons for a long distance relationship, making one work is hard. Especially when it comes to sex. How can you keep a relationship steamy if you can't even be in the same room together?

Actually, you can. With a bit of extra effort, you can make your long distance relationship so steamy that, when the time comes, you won't be able to keep your hands off of each other.

Use it, don't lose it. When your partner is unavailable, thinking about sex can seem a little frustrating. After all, masturbation seems like such a poor substitute for what you really want. But "if you don't use it, you'll lose it" is as true of libidos as it is of anything else. Orgasming regularly will keep your sex drive topped up and ready for your partner's next visit.

Get hot on the phone... or webcam. Being far away from the one you love --and want-- can be a lot less painful if you can still share a sexual (if not a physical) relationship. A great way to do this is through regular old phone sex. Talking about what you want to do to each other and what your fantasies are can be a lot of fun. In fact, doing it over the phone instead of face-to-face can be surprisingly liberating. You never know what you might hear come out of your mouth!

Want to heat things up even more? Look into making your own porn or sharing sexual time via a webcam. While it's important to be very careful about what you put online and where, if you're safe about using webcams for sexy chats with your partner, it can be a great way to steam things up. Even if you're not the type to go all out with what is essentially private porn, think about chatting online with your top off, or doing a slow strip-tease while your partner watches from afar.

Send sexy messages. When you're exclusively internet dating or have a military partner, you don't always have the opportunity to get down and dirty with your partner on the phone or the net. But you might have plenty of chances to keep a sexy correspondence going. Take the time to compose a sexy email or text message to keep your partner thinking about you.

Plan for future sex. Unfortunately, you can't have sex with your long-distance partner whenever you want. But you can talk about what you will do when you actually are together. Share your fantasies and the things you've always wanted to try in bed. Then talk about when you're going to do them, and make a plan to make them happen. Having something so sexy to look forward to will make your long-distance relationship anything but boring.

Exchange sexy gifts. Have to spend a long time away from your partner? Send them sexy gifts to help them get along without you. With a special vibrator or DVD or piece of lingerie, you can (in a way) be with your partner even when you're not there. It's a very fun way to make internet dating and other long distance relationships a lot more fun.

Making a long distance relationship work is hard. When sex fades away, sometimes desire has a tendency to, as well. Just as with any relationship, long distance relationships only work if you nurture and feed them. With a little extra effort, you can keep romance alive for when you finally get to be together.

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